Deep questions to ask your girlfriend
The ones that get past the surface and into who she really is.
The best way to keep falling for her is to keep learning her. These are the questions that reach the parts an ordinary day never touches.
They run from who she really is to the ones that take a little courage to ask.
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Where does your mind go the second it has nothing to do?
About who she really is
- 1Where does your mind go the second it has nothing to do?
- 2What is a part of yourself you are still trying to understand?
- 3What is a belief about yourself that took you years to unlearn?
- 4What is something you are curious about that has nothing to do with me?
- 5What is a contradiction in you that you have made peace with?
- 6What do you trust your gut about more than your head?
- 7What does being truly rested actually feel like to you?
- 8What is a version of success that only you would understand?
- 9What do you do to feel like yourself again after a hard week?
- 10What is something you are quietly proud of that you have never told me?
- 11What is a rule you live by that you never actually say out loud?
- 12What is something about yourself that still makes you laugh?
- 13What do you know now about yourself that would have shocked you at twenty?
- 14When do you doubt yourself the most?
- 15What is a corner of your mind you rarely let anyone into?
- 16What is a version of yourself that only exists when you are completely alone?
About us
- 17What is something about us that took you completely by surprise?
- 18What do you think we understand about each other without ever saying it?
- 19What is a moment with me you have never actually described out loud?
- 20What is a silence between us that you find comfortable instead of awkward?
- 21What is a joke between us that you think no one else would get?
- 22What do you think I see in you that took you a while to see yourself?
- 23What is a shared moment that changed how you see yourself?
- 24What do you think holds us together on the days it is not easy?
- 25What is a version of us from a year ago you sometimes miss?
- 26What do I do without noticing that makes you feel braver?
- 27What is something you needed me to notice that you never actually said?
- 28What is a small thing we do that actually means everything to you?
- 29What is a memory of us you find yourself replaying when we are apart?
- 30What has surprised you most about loving me for this long?
About her past
- 31What is a decision from your past you are still glad you made?
- 32What is something you used to be afraid of that does not scare you anymore?
- 33What is a mistake from your past that ended up teaching you the most?
- 34Which place from your past do you wish you could visit one more time?
- 35What is something you had to unlearn after you first left home?
- 36When in your past did you feel the most free?
- 37What is something you gave up on that you sometimes still think about?
- 38Who believed in you before you believed in yourself?
- 39How old were you the first time you truly stood up for yourself?
- 40What is something you went through alone that you wish you had not?
- 41What is a risk from your past you are still proud you took?
- 42What is something you understand about your younger self now that you could not then?
- 43What did money mean in the house you grew up in?
- 44What is the moment you first felt like an adult?
About the future
- 45What is something about yourself you are still working to become?
- 46What do you hope you never stop chasing, even years from now?
- 47What is a change in yourself you are hoping happens in the next few years?
- 48What do you want to be better at handling ten years from now?
- 49What is something you hope we never have to say to each other?
- 50If you met yourself ten years from now, what do you hope has changed?
- 51What do you want people to remember about you long after you are gone?
- 52What is a fear you have about becoming too comfortable with me?
- 53What do you hope keeps surprising you about me as time goes on?
- 54What is a personal goal you are chasing that is entirely just for you?
- 55What is something you want to get braver about as you get older?
- 56What is a future conversation with me you are quietly dreading?
- 57What do you hope we still argue about the same way in twenty years?
- 58How do you want to feel about your own life when you are old?
The ones that take courage
- 59What is something you are scared to admit you need from this relationship?
- 60If you could unsay one thing to me, what would it be?
- 61What is something about me you have never had the nerve to bring up?
- 62What is a doubt about us you have kept entirely to yourself?
- 63What do you actually think when we go quiet after a fight?
- 64What is something you have forgiven me for that you never mentioned?
- 65What is a truth about yourself you are still scared to tell me?
- 66What is something you have wanted to change about me but never said?
- 67When have you felt lonely even while we were together?
- 68What is a version of this relationship you are scared to hope for?
- 69What is something you have stayed quiet about to keep the peace between us?
- 70What is the hardest thing you have ever had to trust me with?
- 71What do you think I would be surprised to learn actually hurts you?
- 72What is a fear about yourself you have never told me?
