Questions to ask your crush
For the one you like before you have made a move.
The hardest part of a crush is the not-knowing. The right question keeps the conversation going and quietly tells you where you stand.
These are low-stakes and easy to text: break the ice, learn who they are, and test the vibe without putting your whole heart on the table.
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What's the most random thing you're actually great at?
Breaking the ice
- 1What's the most random thing you're actually great at?
- 2What's a hobby you picked up for a totally random reason?
- 3What show do you always end up rewatching?
- 4What's your comfort meal after a rough day?
- 5Are you the friend who plans everything, or the one who wings it?
- 6What's the boldest thing you've done on a whim?
- 7What's a weirdly specific thing you have strong opinions about?
- 8What's your go-to move on a night with nothing planned?
- 9What's a small thing that reliably turns your mood around?
- 10What's something you're quietly an expert on?
- 11What's the last thing you got way too excited about?
- 12What's the most chaotic thing in your camera roll right now?
- 13What's something people usually get wrong about you at first?
- 14Are you a morning person, or does that sound like a personal attack?
Getting to know them
- 15What does your actual day look like, start to finish?
- 16What's something you've gotten unexpectedly into this year?
- 17Is your job anything like what you imagined as a kid?
- 18Who's the friend you've had the longest?
- 19What's the last thing you taught yourself how to do?
- 20What's a rule you live by that most people don't know about?
- 21What do your friends usually come to you for?
- 22What's something you're currently saving up for?
- 23What's a habit of yours you're actually proud of?
- 24What's a decision you made that turned out exactly right?
- 25What's a cause or topic you care about more than most people do?
- 26What does a genuinely good week look like for you?
- 27What's something you're better at than you let on?
- 28What's a small win from this year you haven't told many people about?
- 29What's something you learned about yourself recently that stuck?
- 30What's a goal you're quietly working toward right now?
Testing the vibe
- 31What's the first thing you notice about someone?
- 32Do you believe in first impressions, or do people grow on you?
- 33What makes you actually want to keep talking to someone?
- 34Is it confidence or kindness that gets you first?
- 35What's a green flag that gets you every time?
- 36What's the quickest way to tell if someone's into you?
- 37What would you do if we ran into each other unexpectedly?
- 38What's something that instantly makes you trust someone?
- 39Do you make the first move, or wait for the other person to?
- 40What's a sign someone actually likes you, not just being nice?
- 41What do you usually pick up on that other people miss?
- 42Would you rather I text first, or do you like chasing a little?
- 43What's something about talking to me that's felt easy for you so far?
- 44Do you know pretty quickly if you like someone, or does it creep up on you?
Flirty but safe
- 45What's the most charming thing you've seen someone do without trying?
- 46What compliment do you secretly wish people gave you more often?
- 47Does a good sense of humor beat good looks for you?
- 48What's a small thing about me you'd never admit you noticed?
- 49Do you flirt on purpose, or does it just happen to you?
- 50What's the most attractive thing confidence can look like, to you?
- 51If I asked you to hang out tonight, what would you actually say?
- 52What's a nickname you'd secretly love for someone to give you?
- 53What gives you away the second you start liking someone?
- 54Do you like being chased, or do you like doing the chasing?
- 55What's the first compliment you'd give me, no overthinking it?
- 56What's something small that makes you instantly more comfortable around someone?
- 57What's the fastest way to get under your skin, in a good way?
- 58What's a small gesture that instantly makes someone more attractive to you?
Over text
- 59Do you text in full sentences, or fragments and typos?
- 60Are you a double-texter, or do you wait it out?
- 61Do you send voice notes, or does that feel too personal?
- 62What's the longest you've left someone on read on purpose?
- 63Do you overuse one emoji more than you'd like to admit?
- 64What's a text you typed out and never actually sent?
- 65Do you reread my texts before you reply, or just wing it?
- 66What time of night are you most likely to actually reply?
- 67Do you prefer a meme, a voice note, or a straight-up call?
- 68What's the most unhinged group chat you're a part of?
- 69Do you screenshot texts to send to your friends?
- 70What's a text of yours that took way longer to write than it should have?
- 71Does seeing the three dots pop up make you nervous or excited?
- 72Do your texts sound exactly like you, or do you put on a voice?
