Love questions to ask your partner
About how they love, about your story, about what love means to them.
Love is easy to feel and hard to talk about. These questions give you a way in that does not feel like a big serious conversation.
Ask about how they love, the story of you two, and what the word actually means to them. Save a few for an anniversary.
Love / Anniversary questions
What is one thing about loving me that has gotten easier for you with time?
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About how they love
- 1What is the first thing you do when you want me to feel loved?
- 2How do you show love when you are too worn out to say it?
- 3What is something you do for me without even thinking about it?
- 4Do you show love more with your words or with your hands?
- 5What do you do the moment you start missing me?
- 6How does the way you love me change on your hardest days?
- 7What do you do for me that you never expect a thank you for?
- 8When do you feel the pull to just reach for my hand?
- 9Do you try to fix my bad mood or sit in it with me?
- 10How has the way you love me changed since the start?
- 11What is a way you love me that I might not even notice?
- 12Do you love out loud or love quietly?
- 13How do you show pride in me without making a big deal of it?
- 14What small habit of mine still makes you fall for me?
- 15When do you feel the most tender toward me?
- 16How do you love me on a completely ordinary Tuesday?
- 17What do you do only for me and never for anyone else?
- 18How do you comfort me without using any words?
- 19What is the smallest loving thing you do when I am asleep and cannot see it?
- 20What is the quietest thing you do that makes me feel chosen?
About us and our story
- 21How would you tell the story of how we met to a total stranger?
- 22What is the exact moment you knew this was going somewhere?
- 23What do you think almost stopped us from ever getting together?
- 24What do you remember about the morning after our first date?
- 25Who fell first, you or me?
- 26What is the first thing you remember thinking when you saw me?
- 27Which early date do you wish we could redo exactly as it happened?
- 28What did you think our future looked like on the night we met?
- 29What is the moment early on when you first thought this could be real?
- 30What is something about our early days you wish you had known then?
- 31How did your friends react when they found out about us?
- 32When did you feel our story stop being new and start feeling like home?
- 33Do you think any part of how we got together would surprise people who know us now?
- 34What would you call the chapter of our story we are in right now?
- 35What is a version of our story you only tell when I am not in the room?
- 36What do you think we do better now than we did at the start?
- 37What is the boldest thing you did to get me to notice you?
- 38What is a moment from our story that still makes you laugh?
- 39What is a small detail from how we met that you still think about?
- 40What was different about me from everyone else you had dated?
About romance
- 41What is your idea of the perfect date down to the last detail?
- 42What is the most romantic thing anyone has ever done for you?
- 43Do you prefer grand gestures or quiet ones that only I would notice?
- 44What makes you feel most desired?
- 45What is a small thing I do that you find unexpectedly romantic?
- 46When do you feel most swept up in me?
- 47What is your favorite way for a night together to start?
- 48Do you prefer candlelight or fairy lights on a night in?
- 49What does a perfectly romantic evening look like to you?
- 50Where would you take me for a night that felt like a movie?
- 51What is a romantic cliche you actually love, no matter how corny?
- 52What small compliment from me do you replay in your head?
- 53Do you fall harder for the right words or the right actions?
- 54What song would you want playing if you were about to kiss me?
- 55What is something I do that you find irresistibly attractive?
- 56When do you feel butterflies around me, even now?
What love means to them
- 57What is something you used to think was love but now know was not?
- 58If you could not use the word love, how would you describe what you feel for me?
- 59What does it take for you to love someone well when nothing special is happening?
- 60What do you think is the difference between loving me and being in love with me?
- 61What part of loving me comes easily to you and what part takes real effort?
- 62What is a rule about love that you actually live by?
- 63What does love feel like in your body, not just in your head?
- 64What is something you need to feel loved that you rarely ask for?
- 65Do you think loving someone well is more about showing up or staying curious?
- 66What does loving someone with no conditions actually look like to you?
- 67What is one thing you know love is not, no matter what people say?
- 68What does it mean to choose someone on a day you do not feel like it?
- 69What is the clearest proof that love is real to you?
- 70What do you think love asks of you that nothing else does?
- 71What does it feel like when someone finally loves you right?
- 72What is a version of love you no longer believe in?
- 73What does love cost you, if it costs anything at all?
- 74What is the most unglamorous way you show love?
Anniversary questions
- 75What has surprised you most about loving me for another year?
- 76What is your favorite way we have ever celebrated an anniversary?
- 77Do you prefer we celebrate big every year or keep it small and quiet?
- 78What is one tradition you want us to start on our anniversary?
- 79What has this last year with me taught you about yourself?
- 80What is the best gift you have ever given me and why did you pick it?
- 81What do you want us to still be doing on our fiftieth anniversary?
- 82What do you think has been our hardest year, and what got us through it?
- 83What is one way you want us to mark next year that we have never tried?
- 84What does it mean to you that we are still choosing each other?
- 85What is something about us that you think gets better with every year?
- 86What is the best toast you would give to us on our anniversary?
- 87What is one thing about loving me that has gotten easier for you with time?
- 88What is one thing about loving me that still feels brand new to you?
- 89What is a promise you want to make to me on our next anniversary?
- 90What is the one thing about us you hope never changes, even years from now?
